In his book Mystery says “Pickup artists don’t bother with anything below a 6.” Personally I think it is sad there are so many negative beliefs throughout the community about unattractive women. Its like everyone says that you have to strive for “hot” women. This type of social conditioning only puts more pressure on individuals working to improve their skills and by creating the 1 to 10 scale community guys are setting up artificial barriers to succeed. By focusing on 6’s, 7’s and 8’s and above the average guy is creating more obstacles for himself to get laid.
This problem is futher compounded by the myth that instructors are out there laying 9’s and 10’s every weekend. For example, CJ even admits that he’s pulled some 3’s. But he’s being honest about it and, unlike some others, didn’t fabricate his own myspace page with phony models as “friends.” But as far as I’m concerned CJ pulling an occasional UG just gives him even more credibility. Unfortuantely, a number of people out there embellish their FRs.
Another example is Daniel Johnson of PU101. He is their top instructor yet he’s dating a 5. She’s not a hot beach blonde but she has a good personality and at least he’s being real about what he’s drawn to.
A friend of mine says that he’s never been with a girl that is less than a 7. You know what, this person actually hasn’t been with that many girls. Ironically enough he thinks the reason he didn’t get to “grandmaster” status is because he didn’t go on a massive spree. Show me a guy that has banged a lot of women and I gurantee he’s slept with some average looking girls and probably a few UGs as well. Being open to sleeping with steretypically unattractive girls will actually help you hook-up with good looking women. The idea is somewhat similar to investing and entrepreneurship where the more that you’re mentally willing to lose the more you stand to gain. It is basically a matter of risk and reward. If your’e willing to take a “risk” of sleeping with some UGs (or average looking girls for those who are convinced they can only touch a 7 or higher) you are more likely to receive the reward of obtaining 8’s, 9’s and 10’s.
Some guys in life are playing not to lose instead of going for the win. Walking into the bar and instantly eliminating all the 6’s and below is very narrow-minded and is the same thing as playing not to lose. One reason why some people do this is that it’s a self-defensive ego mechanism. It is kinda similar why others are sometimes snobby. A snob basically does the same thing and instantly tosses the 6’s (I’m speaking of social status rather than looks) and below. I will write a separate post about that but its is really just the same thing. Taking the “risk” of having a healthy appreciation of people in all walks of life is only going to give you greater rewards. You see risk and reward don’t just apply to the “manly” topics of business; it applies to everyday social interactions throughout your daily life.
Many guys won’t admit it but at some point we’ve all have wanted to hook up with a stereotypically unattractive female. I know I have. For me it was because I found the girl interesting and was attracted to her for non-physical reasons. Looks isn’t everything but the community makes a big deal out of it. Its like a major ego thing. I haven’t slept with any unattractive women in my life (yet!) but I’ve slept with some average looking women who might be considered 4’s and 5’s. But if someday I have sex with an unattractive woman it won’t bother me a bit. That said, there is no way I could actually date an unattractive girl. It could only be sexual and you aren’t going to see me holding her hand while walking down the street.
I might write more about how men classify women into looks but for the meantime unplug yourself from all this HB 7.891526 nonsense. I made a leap in my inner game when I accepted the fact that I would have no problem if I hooked up with, say, a 3. However, you can take your game even further by separating yourself from the 1 – 10 scale altogether. I’m not advising people to go out and intentionally hunt for unattractive women but at least open up your mind about it, especially if you haven’t been with that many women. The bottom line is this: go for women that you are truly drawn to regardless of their looks.