Phases of Growth

If you dedicate time, study and practice to “pickup” you’re going to get better and better. However, personal growth when it comes to seduction moves at an entirely different rate than many other things in life. As an analogy seduction is often compared to sports. However, our improvement at playing sports grows at a fairly linear rate while our pickup skills grow in a much more cyclical fashion. When in comes to seduction sometimes we make huge leaps in short amounts of time.

The reason for this is because developing social skills is much more complex than learning to, say, hit a tennis ball. For one, inner game is much more important for pickup compared to athletics. Sports are dominantly an outer game activity and while confidence and inner game are important for them too on the whole it is a much more mechanical activity. The general principle is that the more mechanical an activity the more linear the process of getting better at it.

In addition, each individual has their own unique growth rate when learning a new activity. Not only is growth at mechanical activities more linear but the variability of the growth rate is less from person to person. When it comes to pickup usually what happens is that your skills seems to flatten out and then poof you make a huge jump in a short period of time. You do learn little things every time you go out but on the whole growth is stepwise. More specifically, inner game rises in a cyclical manner while outer game grows in a more linear manner.

Inner game growth is very similar to personal growth and maturity as a whole. People grow in cycles and its usually the result of new experiences in life. When major changes happen and people are exposed to something new thats when much of the growth occurs. And, just when you think your inner game couldn’t get any better you make yet another leap. The process never ends and thats one of the exciting things about life. However, inner game growth alone isn’t going to make one a great seducer. It is only when combined with outer game that you are going to see results.