Archetypes of Sexuality

The following is an excerpt from Hobo Stripper, an interesting blog I recently found:

A big part of it, though, is finding a sexy archetype or image, and tapping into it. You wanna really hit a big turn-on in the morphogenic field. It can be that muscular wild cave woman image, or it can be a sultry dark beauty, or it can be high glam, or it can be barbie, or… well, anything. But whatever it is, it should be a natural element of your personality, and you should project the hell out of it with your image.

When projecting your image, think about the details: outfit, jewelry, make up, and the way you carry yourself. Beyond that, I don’t obsess.

This is very similar to Brad P’s concept of sexual stereotype. Thinking like a stripper can certainly help your game. I’ll be writing more on this topic in the future.

Confidence and Boldness

Thing that I have a problem with is often I have boldness not confidence…It’s like, i’m so petrified by fear sometimes, that I just fucking push myself so I do the approach, I ask the girl to come home with me (apocalypse opener) or whatever. Thing is, once I get in a set, i’m so forced, my adrenaline is going so much, that it gives off a fucked up vibe.

Confidence and boldness are distinct attributes and sometimes people misinterpret boldness for confidence. I can relate to the quoted excerpt because some of it applied to me. The ultimate goal is to become confident and not necessarily bold. Confidence is an attribute of the person while boldness describes an action. Unfortuantely to achieve confidence some people create a path that requires them to be bold.

Charisma Arts has a concept called alpha nice. Alpha mean, however, would be a combination of boldness without confidence.

Regaining Masculine Confidence

In some ways I had more masculine confidence before I found the seduction community. Financially I was very successful in 2006 and it conributed to my state of being and self-esteem. I also had a clear identity that was tied to my career. I found my local lair late in 2006 but in 2007 I took a hit financially. I’ve only recently began to understand the significance and how its affected my self-esteem and identity. I don’t have a strong identity like I did before and my overall masculine confidence is down. I used to take pride in having wads in my pocket like candy.

This isn’t about financial success or being rich but the presence I had from having a clear purpose. Sooner or later I will have an even more rewarding career than before but the period of transition has seen some negative effects. I just had a 6 hour phone conversation and one of things I realized is that I’ve lost much of the masculine confidence I had before.

While I’ve made incredible strides in my body language, fashion and pickup abilities I have simultaneously lost some of my masculine confidence. Since the start of 2007 my pickup confidence was increasing while my masculine confidence was decreasing. It has taken over a year later to clearly see what happened in the process.

Prior to going out sarging, however, the situation was reversed. My masculine confidence was up there but my pickup confdience was not. I had my best results in early 2007 and that’s when the two types of confidence began to “intersect.” Part of the reason I had success in field is there wasn’t a substantial gap between my masculine and pickup confidence. Regardless of direction if there is a large gap between the two then its going to hurt you. Close the gap and the results will come.

UGs and Pornography

For an off the wall post on pickup and pornography click here. On a more serious note, however, how we consume pornography is very relevant to pickup. Some guys are setting their standards too high when they haven’t been with that many women to begin with. What’s interesting is I think porn offers us perspective on UGs. If you’re only willing to approach hot women then ask yourself if you’ve ever got off to a 5 while watching porn. Do you only limit yourself to pornography that contains 9’s and 10’s? Probably not. I suspect the women that men are most attracted to in pornography are similar to the women they are most attracted to in real life.

The Secret Society of Sales

There is a secret society out there that has been around for years. These guys have been using pickup lines long before the existence of the seduction community. Not only that but they share their strategies with each other too! In fact they don’t just discuss strategies over lunch but a small chunk of them conduct academic studies. They have a highly organized body of knowledge and they surely don’t want us to know their secrets, right?

So who are they? Well, it is the secret society of sales. Walk into a car dealership or retail establishment and what happens? They approach you with their opener. We are well aware of what they’re doing but does it really matter? The answer is no.

The same goes with women. Women know what you are trying to do but it doesn’t make any difference. Some people believe the seduction community is some underground secret and we can’t have women know about the community. Now I’m not advocating we tell women to read lairs and message boards (people in sales write “lay reports” too) but that’s about as naive as thinking consumers aren’t aware that salespeople can learn how to hone their skills as well. Heck, almost every university today has a business school.

The relationship between women and the seduction community is similar to consumers and business. The point being not to discuss the similarities but to open up your eyes and look at the seduction community in a more holistic fashion. Women and PUAs know about each other just like customers and salespeople.