The 4 Types of Escalation
When you think of escalation it helps to think of it from a broad perspective. When most people think of escalation they usually associate it with just kino escalation. In addition to kino escalation (which is covered in so much material that there is no point in going over it here) it is important to escalate sexually, emotionally and also add mutual-value to the interaction.
Sexual escalation ranges from light flirting and sexual framing to being very sexually direct. When you escalate sexually you’re making it clear that you’re not just there to “talk.” You’re there because you’re fun and to convey your possible sexual interest in the other person. One purpose of banter is to make it clear that you’re there to flirt. More aggressive sexual escalation includes prepping and sexual framing. Another form of sexual escalation is throwing a SOSI (statement of sexual interest) and usually means that you tell a women that you find her “sexy.” An example of very aggressive sexual escalation is saying “I wanna fuck you.” In fact this can even be done in the opening. Sexually direct openers are very sexual openers that convey your sexual interest right from the start. Light sexual escalation can be used with almost all women in the right context but more aggressive sexual escalation should only be used with women that we have an actual sexual interest in.
Another form of escalation is emotional escalation. While sexual escalation will make it clear that you want more than just friends, emotional escalation is what’s needed to help establish a strong connection between you and your target. In fact sometimes you don’t even need to get that sexual and can just vibe your way to the bedroom. The process of vibing your way to the bedroom is done by connecting with wide rapport and possibly diving into deep rapport as well. While physical (kino) can only be used for people we have a romantic or sexual interest in emotional escalation is something that be used with anyone. Keep in mind that pickup companies aren’t just teaching guys to pickup women but to be able connect with regular people in your everyday life and appreciate them for their uniqueness. If you really want to connect with a woman and have her thinking about you beyond the bedroom then emotional escalation is one of the most powerful things you can do with any interaction. That said, I hope Mr. DiCarlo doesn’t develop the emotional escalation ladder . . .
Finally we have mutual value escalation. Mutual-value escalation involves increasing each others value and making each person feel more and more appreciated. The stronger a connection that you build with someone the more you two will increase each others value. This helps you two move through the comfort phase of the interaction and increase sexual tension. MVE is usually a byproduct from vibing and is a direct result of escalating emotionally. And like emotional escalation it can be done with anyone, including guys. A more detailed explanation of MVE can be found here.
All in all when you’re interacting with people keep the larger context in mind. Always be escalating and calibrate with the right dose of physical, sexual, emotional and mutual-value escalation.
